Five Keys for Unlocking Libido Enhancement in Men - Key # Five: Dealing with Emotional Stress

The fifth key to unlocking libido enhancement in men is dealing with emotional stress. Many people (mostly men) think if they are stressed out they can just get it on and they (or their partner) won’t be stressed any more.

Women don’t tend to think that way. In fact, what if the person you are intimate with is part of your stress equation? Emotional stress can be dealt with if couples are willing to talk and work through it. However, if you’re not careful, it can lead to depression. And well, let’s just say depression can really wreak havoc on your libido and become a chronic problem for both partners.

Emotional stress in a relationship can range anywhere from stress from work being brought back home, to one partner lying or cheating on the other partner. Many of these problems can lead to a full blown depression (Can you say no libido?).

My wife and I have a special needs child. When he was younger he had to wear an apnea monitor, had a feeding pump, and had to wear an oxygen mask. It wasn’t too long before we were in desperate need of a respite – a break. Fortunately, we were able to hook up with an agency that could provide that for us, until more family and friends felt comfortable helping us take care of our special needs child.

Many couples don’t see they are headed for burnout (or maybe even a “train wreck”) before it’s too late. They end up in the hospital, or in a therapist’s office, or possibly in a divorce lawyer’s office. Low libido becomes no libido. Couples get so emotionally exhausted and confused that they can’t even tell you how they got to the point of impact when everything just exploded.

If only couples would just stop, take a deep breath, and talk about what they are feeling and thinking with each other, a lot of these relationship disasters could be avoided. Here are some practical ways to deal with emotional stress as a couple:

1. Check in with each other – Find out how each other is doing and what each of you needs are. Listen without making judgments. Openly talk about thoughts and feelings. Discuss options on how better to address the stress.

2. Make a plan – Planning is the place to start. It involves both partners. Both partners can take ownership in the plan. Make sure that both agree on the plan, or at least can make a compromise to make it work. Put a time limit on the plan. Review the plan after a set period of time for its effectiveness. It may need to be tweaked. Or you may need to try something else altogether. That’s ok because it’s your plan. Make it flexible.

3. Make the effort – Make your best effort to give to the other person what they need to help sustain them through emotional stress. If you do, they in turn are more likely to help meet your emotional needs, which can really enhance libido.

Dealing with emotional stress is very important for your relationship (and by direct connection any libido problems that may exist). If you fail to address these issues and try to pretend they are not there, you may find it will come back to haunt you later. It’s like failing to pay a creditor. If you stop talking to them, they take you to court, and then you have to pay court costs, attorney fees, and other fees on top of that.

The best part of effectively dealing with emotional stress is that there is a great chance that you can succeed and enjoy a very fulfilling sexual relationship with your partner. And THAT’s something that we all want to enjoy.

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